“Sex should never be demanding, it should always be about giving…it should always be about mutual pleasure and connection.” Dr. Camden Morgante, Psy.D.
Though it’s rarely talked about in the church, many people bring the scars of shame into marriage with “the damaged goods” myth, marrying someone they didn’t feel was healthy or safe, simply because they were sexually active…
Others bring pornographic expectations and their spouse is disillusioned by the ways they are treated and being asked to respond, since their (often wounded) spouse cannot find sexual arousal until they do….
Others yet didn’t even have the choice to engage in sex but had trauma or are otherwise disinterested and now they want to avoid sex altogether …
This is all so difficult (and sooo common in my line of work) and there’s SUCH a lack of sexual education in the church. We get it, there are many who don’t want to hear about it, due to their above issues and plenty more.
That’s why I am SO happy I had the opportunity to team up and talk to Christian psychologist Dr. Camden Morgante, Psy.D about this on today’s podcast, which is chock full of healthy information, and tastefully presented, for every couple right >> here! <<
It was also so fun to realize just before our interview that we had the same awesome Christian professor for sex therapy in grad school (in different years, and in different states and colleges!)
Dr. Camden holds a traditional sexual ethic of abstinence before marriage but she knows this is not always the route people take and she loves helping couples, as do I, heal from sexual shame.
She also has a huge heart for the health, celebration and intimacy that comes with finely tuned covenant intimacy for married couples (it often takes time and knowledge to get there, so don’t feel bad if you’re not there yet) and she has SUCH good information for you if you or anyone you love is struggling in this often complex area.
There is hope, there is help, and if you want to see what others are worried or concerned about in this area (as well as some tips), tune in today! Plus, I’ve saved your specific questions and answers on Instagram @enneagramandmarriage in the “Intimacy” highlight also.
Thank you so much for sharing, you were SO healthily vulnerable which makes me realize how ready for healing steps you are!
Love Living Life Intentionally With You,
Christa
Listen right >> here <<!
Dr. Camden has a quiz on >> purity culture << you may love also if you had early wounds about sexual purity and God’s love for you!!
