“The work of paying compassionate attention is, in a sense, learning to steward for ourselves what God already believes about us — that we’re valuable and loved.” – Aundi Kolber, Try Softer
When we bravely choose to work on healing trauma, we need a soft place to land, along with patience with ourselves and our spouses as we grow, too.
On a recent podcast episode, I’m so grateful that trauma therapist and author Aundi Kolber, Enneagram 4, takes us on a journey of gently working through our deepest anxiety, anger, and heart issues with compassion, wisdom, and strength.
I love how in this interview she takes time with us, too. This is a gift 4s uniquely offer, as they often give us permission to linger a little longer and to let down our guards, taking time to curiously and slowly do the work required to inform our body’s built-in survival system that we are safe and sound.
Aundi also talks about her own 4-7 (with a huge 8 wing!) marriage and how she and her spouse Brendan have continued to work on increasingly becoming a safe place together, whether they’re sharing their gifts with one another or taking a much needed break from all the processing.
If you’re working on your tools and type issues but still often operating out of flight, flight, freeze, or fawn trauma reactions, I believe you’ll leave the episode feeling both more understood as well as deeply encouraged as we share healing tools for your journey!
Also, Aundi’s book is absolutely fantastic in terms of sharing very specific trauma tools (grounding exercises, containment, and lots more!) so I’m linking that below and in the show notes as well!
Love Living Intentionally With You,
Christa
PS: Here’s the podcast episode!
PPS: Here’s Aundi’s beautiful book Try Softer!
